This came up on twitter tonight and it got me thinking. I’ve blogged about the importance of self care and being kind to yourself (see here) but I realised this evening that there is something missing.
As well as practicing self care, it would be nice if someone looked after me for a change. Not in a stifling, nursing way. But in a subtle, caring way. Because no matter how much I take time for me, or how much self care I do, I am still a mum.
I’m pretty sure the routine aspects of being a mum aren’t included in self care – laundry, housework, washing up, cooking meals. As a single parent, it all falls to me. K is very good at helping out with chores but I’m careful not to put on her too much.
But I’m tired, I need a break. I need someone else to do those ever present tasks for me. To be cooked a meal, to find the dishes done and the kitchen clean, to keep on top of things, to have someone else do something for a change, to be looked after. Himself is great at having K so I get a break, but it’s only a break from being a parent. The household jobs still need doing whether K is here or not.
I think I need a break from being an adult. I need a holiday, but that’s impossible at the moment. I just need some time off from the mundane things that demand my attention. And someone to look after me for a change.