In the five years since my brain stopped working the way it used to and my world was turned upside down, I’ve learnt a lot. Much of what I have learnt is thanks to mental health professionals, who have taught me tools and strategies that I continue to use and add to.
The most important thing I’ve learnt is that, while asking for help is undoubtedly a good thing, you have to help yourself too. So many times I have dug deep to haul myself out of the darkness, out of the pit where life isn’t worth living, dragging myself kicking and screaming back to the light, back to a place where I can ask for help.
It would be easier to wait for someone to help me rather than me helping myself. Easier, but not healthier. Yes, there are times when I must rely on others, when I am unable or not well enough to do something myself, but if I am to function successfully then I must take responsibility and do the work myself. I do not want to be reliant on others, I do not want to be helpless.
There is help out there, but I must help myself first so I can ask for it.