How often do you find yourself apologising for things you really aren’t sorry for? I do it far too often. So Better Not Broken’s blog post ‘Five Things I Will Not Apologize For In 2015‘ (read it, you must) appeared in my inbox at just the right time. I don’t celebrate the new year, I don’t make resolutions, and I probably haven’t apologised for some of these things before. But still, with permission from Better Not Broken, here are some things I won’t be apologising for in 2015.
My mental illness
So many times I’ve said “I have a mental illness, sorry” and wondered why I feel the need to apologise. This stops now. I have a mental illness. I’m not sorry about it and neither should you be.
“I smoke, sorry”. No, no, no. I smoke. End of. Yes I’m addicted, yes it’s a filthy habit, yes I wish I’d never started. But I’m not sorry for doing it. I will always step outside to smoke, I don’t smoke when people are eating, or near children. I don’t blow my smoke in people’s faces. So why am I apologising?
My ex husband
I’m always apologising for himself, but we’re not married now, he’s not my problem. If he offends people they can take it up with him, not me. If he offends my friends, that’s nothing to do with me. Don’t expect me to apologise for him anymore.
The state of my house
“I’m sorry about the mess” We all say it, don’t we? But my house isn’t bad enough to feature on Hoarders so why do I say it? If I know people are coming I tidy and clean in preparation so there is no mess to be sorry for. If you turn up unannounced and there is a mess, that’s your fault for not telling me you’re coming. I might be sorry you didn’t call in advance, but I will no longer be sorry about the mess.
I don’t drink decaf. You want decaf? Bring it with you. I’m not sorry I don’t have any, it would be wasted anyway because you aren’t here often enough to drink it. I have normal coffee, tea, fruit tea, soft drinks and water. Just no decaf. Suck it up.
If something is my fault, I will apologise. If I upset, hurt or offend you, I will apologise. If I cannot keep an appointment or arrangement, I will apologise. But I’m going to try to stop apologising for things that aren’t my fault. Does that mean I’ve made a resolution after saying I never do? I’m sorry 😉
*Thanks to Better Not Broken for the idea*